Healing Self Doubt with Fernanda Paz Adams
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[00:00:00] Welcome to the Empowered Essence podcast, where we liberate you and empower you to let your soul lead the way in life and business. I'm your host, Laura Lawrence, sharing my thoughts and intimate conversations with featured guests on spirituality, business, and making courageous moves in the spirit of following your soul.
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[00:00:41] Laura Lorentz: Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of Empowered Essence. I am so excited for this episode. This is going to be a really good one. Today I have with me Fernanda Paz Adams and Fernanda and I have worked together, we've become great friends as well throughout the process so I am so honoured to be able to have her on this podcast.
[00:01:01] I feel like we've grown up together. That's how I feel. we've been on this, journey as moms in addition to being business owners. So there's just so many parallels in our lives. But to introduce her, I'm just going to read to everyone her bio. Fernanda is an intuitive empowerment coach and energy alchemist.
[00:01:20] She specializes in helping mom entrepreneurs harness their authentic power, master their mindset, and achieve sustainable success. With a strong emphasis on alignment and balance, Fernanda guides women in business to unlock their inner potential, enabling them to confidently expand their businesses and design life on their own terms.
[00:01:42] If you're seeking transformative insights and strategies to elevate your mindset and energy, Fernanda is here to inspire and empower. Oh, it's so good. I love that. So Fernanda, welcome to the show. Hi, I'm
[00:01:57] Fernanda :Paz Adams: so excited to be here and that we're getting to do this and like you said, it really does feel like we've evolved together in motherhood and business.
[00:02:08] It's wild.
[00:02:09] Laura Lorentz: Yeah. Yeah. A lot has happened like between COVID and first of all, let's share how many kids do you have?
[00:02:18] Fernanda :Paz Adams: So three under five, my oldest is four and a half, my middle one is turning three in December, and then my baby is turning one this, next week. Oh my
[00:02:29] Laura Lorentz: gosh, this is so crazy. So Fernanda and I, our first two kids were born really close together.
[00:02:36] They're both, the same age. actually our second is, born within, less than a week of each other.
[00:02:44] Then she has a beautiful baby girl that, is almost a year old. That's so exciting. I feel so honored because I was actually one of the first people I think that, you had in, one of our courses together, you had shared to the group that, you were pregnant.
[00:02:58] And I was like, Oh, I feel so honored that. I
[00:03:00] Fernanda :Paz Adams: think I was like a couple, like not a month and a half pregnant. And it was one of those things where it's I don't feel good guys. I really need you all to know that this is not my normal self. Yeah.
[00:03:12] Laura Lorentz: So when I said, I feel like we've grown up together, I feel like we've grown up as moms together.
[00:03:16] We've been through, the same things at the same time and really, I feel like I've leaned on you and you've leaned on me and in some very beautiful ways.
[00:03:25] Fernanda :Paz Adams: Yeah, it's been a beautiful journey so far.
[00:03:28] Laura Lorentz: So your business has evolved. It has pivoted. It has very much been an intuitive journey for you.
[00:03:36] So I'd love for you to share with everyone, how your business has evolved in the last couple of years and why you are doing what you're doing today.
[00:03:44] Fernanda :Paz Adams: Yeah, it has been a roller coaster. My business has definitely not been something that just came easily and I had it all figured out.
[00:03:54] You are very aware of this because you've seen me and very different points of my business and how it just keeps on pivoting.It really just started when I had Lucas and I knew that there was something I wanted to do. Lucas is my oldest and he's almost five. So it was about five years ago.
[00:04:10] I just I started diving into neuromarketing because I felt like I wanted to do a business, but I didn't really know anything about anything, and that really sparked that little beginning entrepreneurial personal development journey for me. And the more that I started working in neuromarketing, the more that I realized it just wasn't something wasn't aligning for me and I kept on doing things that people tell you to do and building the business the way that people tell you to do business. It just didn't sit right. Then I found you and I found human design through you and it really lit up this idea that we're all so unique and we're all meant to be doing different things in our lives and living our lives and building our businesses in unique ways.
[00:04:54] That lit the spark of what I wanted to share and how I want to build business for a little [00:05:00] while, I really thought that human design was going to be my thing. The more that I allowed that to sit with me, the more I realized that there's so much more that I want to offer people. There's so many different ways that someone could tap into their intuition and their soul purpose and really overcome those beliefs that are holding them back. So in the last year, I really let go of my neuromarketing businesses and went full into coaching and becoming a certified coach and learning a whole bunch of different modalities and In that I've discovered my passion for Intuitive business and everything between that mindset work and the embodiment of that and the energy of that the really practical aspects of business and building a strategy that is intuitive and that reflects, yourself and the way that you want to do business. So it's been all over the place and yet I'm so glad that it led me here because it was all building blocks towards this.
[00:06:05] Laura Lorentz: Yeah, I love how you talk, you call it intuitive strategy, you had said at one point, and I come from business school,you learn strategy in business school, and it's do X, Y, and Z, and that will get this result and it's very mechanical. I love how you phrase an intuitive strategy, because we are humans at the end of the day and we go through journeys and personal development and all of these things when we become entrepreneurs and we have fears and hopes and dreams and all of these things that some people feel like it just gets in the way.
[00:06:41] Like I can't execute my strategy but when you blend the two together and really look at it from a very intuitive perspective versus I'm going to do X, Y, and Z versus I have this result, but I want to intuitively develop it along the way is really powerful. I think you've hit like a really, really important piece to that blend of like strategy and energetics.
[00:07:06] That's what I think a lot of people need. You need both. You can't build a business with strategy alone because we are humans and not robots. and you can't. Build a business with just energetics. You need some sort of structure in there to make it thrive. Oh,
[00:07:20] Fernanda :Paz Adams: yeah. For me, I have found that the most impactful business decisions that I've made have been ones that didn't make a lot of sense, logically, business wise.
[00:07:31] Then you follow that up with really practical, the Step by step tools and things that are already in the business world, but you're approaching it from a way that doesn't really make sense or in a path that is not the logical path for everyone else. I have found that in my journey that those have been the moments that have really transformed me as a person and my business and the way that I'm doing things and just made my business feel good, which is the underlying theme of anything that I do.
[00:08:01] Is I want people to feel really good doing business because I think there's so many people including myself who have worked and done things that felt so wrong for the sake of this is how we're meant to be doing business. I feel like that's not true. There is a way to do things that really feels good and gets you results. Of finding what that means to you, and I don't think that one person has the entire road map. That's the process. What I'm so passionate about is there's a lot of self discovery that needs to happen in order to find that out for yourself. What
[00:08:36] Laura Lorentz: do you feel like? So you hit on a really good point.
[00:08:39] So what do you think is the difference between, a limiting belief coming up versus something that is not aligned for you? I truly believe there's like a fine balance to walk because there are limiting beliefs that are coming up versus some, that it's like, it doesn't feel good because I'm scared or I'm nervous or like that kind of stuff, but then there's something that's just totally not in my wheelhouse.
[00:09:04] That's why it feels bad. What do you think is that difference? So
[00:09:09] Fernanda :Paz Adams: when I've done this work on myself, one of the things that I like to ask myself and my clients is like when you're a future pacing, like I really like the future pace when those limiting beliefs or that alignment is coming up.
[00:09:21] Like when you think about that thing that you're thinking about, that's keeping you stuck when you look at the future, how does that feel to continue to do this? If you push past this, like initial step period, how's it going to feel in a couple of months and a couple of years and that I feel really shows whether it's just something that it's just like making me feel a little bit scared because it's putting me out there or whether it's just like this really feels wrong and not that is a big piece that I have found like when you start doing a little bit of, Okay.
[00:09:55] Forecasting of what you want your business to look like and really allow yourself to tune [00:10:00] into that the answers are there. You will know whether this is just something that I'm scared of and or something that I'm just really not feeling good with.
[00:10:10] Laura Lorentz: That's a really that's a really great way of looking at it.
[00:10:13] I'm reading a book right now called Energy Rising and so they're talking a lot about like your emotions and so like, how can you tell if it's like. Something that's. Not aligned for you or if it's like your emotions coming up like it's just like an emotional wave that you're experiencing and so they talk
[00:10:31] Fernanda :Paz Adams: about,
[00:10:31] Laura Lorentz: Choosing a more difficult pain, what would you rather and oh and then they talked about if you did this multiple times.
[00:10:39] Would you feel better about it? if you had a fear of public speaking, if you did that, five times, would you, do you think you would feel better about doing public speaking? Or is it just because you haven't done it a lot? to your point, fear of getting out there, they use public speaking as an example.
[00:10:56] So sometimes I think a lot of people, they say, Oh, I don't like this. But that's just because. it's a fear that's coming up or it's, they've never done it before. And people don't like doing things that they've never done. Like at the end of the day, business is messy at the beginning.
[00:11:12] For a lot of us who are perfectionists type A personalities, like doing things that are messy, like scares the living bajeebas out of us. But it's one of those things you have to
[00:11:22] Fernanda :Paz Adams: do. Yeah. Yeah. We want a clear path. Our brains want a logical step forward and they want to know that if I just do A, B and C, I'm going to get there.
[00:11:33] And it doesn't look like that. It looks like a lot of ups and downs and a lot of jumping from point A to point Z and then going back to B and then figuring it out along the way. Like where, what is my path? And then it keeps evolving too. I love that. that fear of like public speaking when I, when you think about that, like for me, for example, that is something, and this is the thing, those fears and the limiting beliefs can evolve.
[00:12:00] Public speaking for me was something that scared me and didn't feel an alignment maybe three years ago. And I could honestly say that was something that I didn't feel right for me. And now that my vision has expanded and that I've done some of that inner work. Public speaking is something that scares me from a fear perspective, from I've never really done this, but not from a, this is out of alignment in my body.
[00:12:25] And so it's like the more that you practice it and the more that you incorporate listening to yourself and asking yourself those deeper questions, the more that it like starts really evolving and growing with you and leading you down paths that you never really knew that you could go down. You touched
[00:12:43] Laura Lorentz: on like how your body sends you signals.
[00:12:46] I love that. how do you feel like the body and intuition play together?
[00:12:52] Fernanda :Paz Adams: Oh my gosh. I have found, in the last year my bodyand really becoming in tune with body has made like a giant shift in, in business, which is wild when you think about it, like it doesn't really apply in the logical sense, but, I tune a lot into what my body's feeling and.
[00:13:16] I ask myself those questions often, like where is this feeling coming from? And what does this feel right now? And what is it that I need to release and let go of? Or what is it that my body needs right now in order to move through this? Also in like the positive way, what is my body experiencing right now that is.
[00:13:32] Signaling to me that this is it. it's not the same for everyone, right? Like for me, I know that a lot of my body, when it feels blocked, comes from my throat and I can feel it. I can feel like I have something stuck in my throat. Whereas when I am feeling expanded and really in alignment, my heart and my like solar plexus are just like lit up and I feel this expansion.
[00:13:55] And again, like that's something that. three, four, even a year ago, I was not experiencing that because I wasn't in tune to it. And I didn't know to really let my body guide me in that way. And it's by allowing yourself and slowly working at it that you really trust or trusting what your body's saying and allowing it to guide you.
[00:14:18] Laura Lorentz: Yeah, I know. I feel like,I feel like a, like some sort of stuckness in my solar plexus. If something's not right for me, I will feel that stuckness almost to the point that, I stop breathing. I limit my breath. if I think about it and I tune into my body when I'm thinking about it, like my solar plexus Yeah, it just clenches up, and it's like hard to breathe, and I never noticed that before.
[00:14:42] It's probably been in the last couple of years that I've really also tuned into my body, and you're right, we all feel it so differently. But I'm excited, yeah, it's like this, expansion in my chest, this excitement, a little bit of sacral, although I'm not a sacral being, I'm a projector, [00:15:00] I do feel like a little bit of that kind of pick up and go, yeah, so it's so important.
[00:15:05] How would you guide someone or recommend someone to tune in to their body? What kind of practices did you do to do that?
[00:15:12] Fernanda :Paz Adams: so I, I've been doing a lot of tapping that's been really helping EFT is incredible for really allowing yourself to, I think, I don't think enough people really let themselves sit with their emotions and their feelings and letting their bodies process that.
[00:15:28] breathwork has been wild for tapping into those emotions that I didn't even know were stuck in there. Lately something that really has been like changing, like my world in a very wild way is Reiki. I got Reiki attuned a couple of weeks ago and it opened up my energy field now in a way that I've never felt energy in this way.
[00:15:51] I can feel it in my body in a way that I've. never felt before, but aside from those, a lot of it has just been like mindful moments where I'm allowing myself to recognize what is coming up for me. So it's like the tools are great and the tools are, have been helpful, but even just asking myself or allowing myself to sit with things and recognizing when there's a feeling coming up, like, where is that?
[00:16:17] And getting like curious, right? Just being really curious with what's going on in your body is like the first step in realizing and recognizing those patterns. we all have patterns of when we feel stuck, it comes up in one way. And when we're feeling in alignment, it comes up in another way.
[00:16:34] And so allowing yourself to really see and sitting with that is was like the first step for me.
[00:16:39] Laura Lorentz: Yeah, I love that. I love that you're Reiki attuned now. I feel like that's, that was like the quote unquote gateway drug for me. when I became, so I did, Holy Fire Reiki.
[00:16:50] That's when I was, I did level one, two and masters. Not that I use it still necessarily in my business, but that was the thing that really opened me up to My spiritual path and healing capabilities and intuition. Like when I started doing Reiki sessions on other people, I was blown away by the messages that came through and when I started tapping into my intuition for others.
[00:17:17] That's when, my own intuition started skyrocketing. I couldn't believe it. It's like, when I started reading other people, I started noticing how my intuition communicates to me. claircognizance, clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudience. We all have, the different clairs.
[00:17:33] But then I started realizing how my intuition communicates to me. Because we all, Get different hits, like just like how we get these body sensations, like our intuition communicates to us in different ways, too. Reiki is what opened the doors for me, and then brought me on those aligned, The aligned breadcrumbs that came along.
[00:17:53] Yeah,
[00:17:54] Fernanda :Paz Adams: it's, I feel like there's, we all start somewhere and then slowly these little pieces just start coming in and it starts guiding you in the path you're supposed to be on. I feel like Reiki has been a huge, I was skeptical about Reiki. I definitely never felt anything energetically ever.
[00:18:14] And so I, I never thought that I would. It was wild being around other people who I'd never met before I like a couple weeks after getting Reiki attuned. And I was impacted by people's energy in such a deep level that I was having a hard time recognizing where it was coming from. And my logical brain couldn't understand what was happening to my body.
[00:18:37] I really feel like a gate's now open. My energetic field is I'm so much more aware and in tune of energies around me that I wasn't before. And it's just, it's crazy how you think about, this is not who I ever thought. I was like, I was not an energetic person that just wasn't in my scope of anything that I felt.
[00:18:57] And now it's just all blown open.
[00:19:00] Laura Lorentz: Yeah, it's like this like sensitivity and I don't think I don't knowI don't know what the right way of describing this is like I don't know if we become more sensitive or if now we just remove these blockages that now we actually feel how we were Born to feel, so it's interesting how that works.
[00:19:19] yeah, that's really, really
[00:19:21] Fernanda :Paz Adams: exciting. I think we just become more aware. I think we're have a blindfold on, like we don't know what we don't know. And we're conditioned to, to shut that off in our bodies and in our minds and Reiki is just one instance of something that allows you to really remove that.
[00:19:39] Laura Lorentz: Yeah, it's powerful stuff. Yeah. So what do you think like one of the main blocks or limiting beliefs you've had along your journey that you've overcome over these last couple of years?
[00:19:52] Fernanda :Paz Adams: Self doubt and confidence and that's the main purpose of my business and what I focus on has been [00:20:00] a huge limiting belief for me and something that I've been chipping away at slowly and I will preface by saying I don't think anyone ever fully has confidence all the time.
[00:20:13] I think we all have moments of self doubt and lack of confidence. There's been a shift in how I recognize that and how I deal with that and the amount of times that it shows up for me in my life and in my business, because of like the endless amount of work that I've been doing around it.
[00:20:31] I think a lot of people are just really comfortable with saying, just fake it till you make it. Just put a bright face on and go out there. And it's, I don't think it's really dealing with the root problem. You're never really going to feel comfortable and feel confident in what you're doing if all you're doing is faking it.
[00:20:52] I think there's deeper A deeper belief and a deeper block that needs to be dealt with and I don't know if a lot of people are always comfortable going that deep.
[00:21:04] Laura Lorentz: Yeah, I agree with that. I don't think a lot of people, want to face like their emotions to really feel like what they're feeling. Like we spend so much of our lives trying topack it all away that there's this perceived difficulty in feeling the things like they feel like it's gonna be hard to feel the things and to move through the things. And it doesn't always have to be, I truly believe that. How do you work with someone? So you identify self-doubt is like a main driver or a main limiting belief that they have?
[00:21:35] How would you work with someone to, to move
[00:21:37] Fernanda :Paz Adams: past that? So the first step in anything and the core that I feel like a lot of people skip, is when they realize that they are, for example, dealing with self doubt and limiting beliefs, they go immediately into wanting to let go of that belief and, bring in new, more empowering beliefs.
[00:21:58] But. Without fully, sitting in that belief, understanding it, and letting yourself, get all aspects of that belief, because that belief, that self doubt, is probably rooted in some past experiences, in some other things that have come up in your life, that have, that are, like, all, surrounding this limiting belief, or this, assumption that you have about your life, and In order to really let it go, there has to be a period of really sitting with it, understanding it, and that requires a lot of questioning and going deeper.
[00:22:34] I work a lot with getting to root cause of beliefs and EFT tapping, really utilizing that to just allow what needs to come up and allow your body to, to just be aware of it. And then you can release it. And so once we've released that limiting belief, that self doubt, then you can start encoding yourself with confidence and using tools to rewire that belief, whether it be, a very simple one to like.
[00:23:07] I access to a lot of NLP tools now, and so I use a lot of NLP tools to, really get your subconscious mind to, to rewire that limiting belief and to encode yourself with new, more powerful stories because As much as affirmations are great, that's a conscious, that's a very conscious thing that you're doing and sometimes the work is subconsciously you have to tell yourself conscious that it's okay to let go that it's okay to do that work and that you're safe.
[00:23:34] Once you do that, once you start really building that confidence, then, I find that a lot of people are stuck in these patterns where because they have self doubt, they don't make the right decisions and so that leads to a lack of confidence in themselves. Then that leads to more bad decisions, which is like spirals down into this like constant loop of losing those pieces of confidence and and continuing to Repeat the patterns of self doubt because they don't really, they're not making the right steps.
[00:24:03] They're not taking the right decisions that they need to take. So once you stop that, once you stop that pattern, then that's where I find that's where your intuition starts to shine. And that's where your body starts to speak to you. And that because you're now moving forward. Looking at things in a different perspective, you've rewired that part of your brain and you've focused now on a new lens and you are allowing yourself to not just believe this, but to feel safe in this new story and to really, believe in what can happen when you let go of that.
[00:24:36] And then your body, it starts to speak to you, then your intuition comes in and it starts guiding you in the path you need to be in and that's where the, and then it reinforces that self confidence and it reinforces the right steps and slowly you start gaining that back and tapping back into yourself.
[00:24:54] Laura Lorentz: Yeah, I'd love that. It's, yeah, not just like trying to, I think people, [00:25:00] especially like in the healing space, it's I just want to, I want to clear it. I want to remove it. I want to clear it. But there's like this, sometimes you don't get to the root of it. So if you're just plucking it from where it is, or where you understand it at the highest level, you're just like,
[00:25:16] It's like a Band Aid fix and then if you are getting to the root, but you're not filling it with something else. Then things are just gonna come backand fill it in its place. So it's both. It's like understanding it, getting to the root and understanding like how you can fill it. So like affirmations I think are great.
[00:25:36] What are some other things that people could do to help boost their self confidence.
[00:25:42] Fernanda :Paz Adams: I love anything that has to do with like visualizations in your highest self. So really listening to and allowing your brain to go into that future place of what it looks like to live out your life in your highest self version of yourself. I found this one is really powerful when you, cascade into the future. If you don't let go of that belief and then cascade when you do let go of that belief and you see the differences in both and your body speaks to you. And it says I don't want to feel that stuckness.
[00:26:15] You can feel it when you're in that visualization, you can feel the stuckness from not letting go of that and how that can translate into all these different decisions that you make in your life. And when you do that alone, just seeing that like those two different things, it allows your brain to, to choose the path that's gonna let you have it.
[00:26:38] In a way that feels good. but like none of that is gonna help if you haven't let go and if you haven't fully done that deeper work of understanding it and that's what I find. It's like a lot of people are just going into a quick visualization to get me to feel good and that's great But there has to be that initial step of, have we really dealt with the root problem of this?
[00:27:01] And have you really, are you really sitting and understanding where this is coming from? Until you do that, none of the other things are really gonna work. But yeah, I'm a big fan of visualizations, meditations that really allow you to like, Sit and feel those feelings. I love, anchoring, I don't know if you've heard of anchoring, but using, like a feeling and helping someone visualize like that feeling of confidence and anchoring that feeling into a point in their body.
[00:27:30] And it just also allows someone to tap back into it whenever they're feeling, those moments of self-doubt, they can push that anchor and bring back those the highest point of confidence, and those are the little bits that allow you because it's a process, right? It's not at one time you do this and it's fixed.
[00:27:48] It allows you to like slowly start to shatter that self doubt and incorporate confidence back into your life. That's powerful.
[00:27:56] Laura Lorentz: That's really powerful. I think, I
[00:27:59] Fernanda :Paz Adams: think self doubt.
[00:28:00] Laura Lorentz: Is a big thing, especially in the online space when people are looking to invest like there's these like patterns of like constant investing.
[00:28:08] It's like I invest in this program and that course and this thing and that thing, but like self doubt often is like at the very root cause of that. Why do you think people do that? Like, why do you think people continue to, invest without really, understanding,
[00:28:24] Fernanda :Paz Adams: the root cause of it?
[00:28:25] I think it's just because it's easy. it's so much easier to have someone tell you what to do and how to do it, instead of having to do deep inner work. A lot of people think that personal... Development books or listening to I love podcasts, but like a podcast or listening to a book.
[00:28:45] It's not going to be enough work. that's that's very surface level, like inspiration and ideas. and so I think for a lot of people are just looking for quick answers and a quick way to. Start getting some progress and moving ahead. And we also when you're in this pattern of self doubt, you don't trust yourself.
[00:29:08] You don't trust your own decisions and your own intuition. And so there's no way for you to know what you need for your business. And you don't even know where to look for that or what to do about that because you're just so in this pattern of not knowing that you've wired yourself to believe that you just don't know.
[00:29:27] You don't know how to do this and you need someone to tell you how to do business, how to, whatever it comes about your life. And in reality, like we all have the answers. Yes, there are experts that have done things that can help us get there faster. I 100 percent believe in investing in yourself, but you need to first know what it is that you want and what it is that is going to serve you best.
[00:29:53] And. A lot of people are not willing to do that work first and then invest in the things that they need [00:30:00] to invest in order to make their businesses work faster. They would just rather have someone, here's a strategy, implement it, do exactly as I say, and then go. Or, here's a strategy, modify it to what you need, and But what if you don't know what you need?
[00:30:16] What if you have no clue what it is that you're a business or how you want to do business because you've never allowed yourself to go there? You're just in this constant pattern of really releasing your own decisions and allowing someone else to make them for you. And that's so disempowering, but it's easier.
[00:30:38] Yeah, but it's not going to really help in the long term like you might a lot of people might see success in the short term, but in the long term, it's not going to build a business that is really in alignment with who they are.
[00:30:52] Laura Lorentz: Yeah, it's like choose your heart get into this pattern of continual investing and spending money and then being stressed about money and all of the things and then it becomes like this self fulfilling prophecy every time you invest you don't get the results that you quote unquote wanted.
[00:31:05] Yeah. But at the end of the day, it's because you're seeking answers from someone else, not yourself, like not really self seeking and it's scary for people to self seek. it's scary for people who like have never empowered themselves in their entire life to empower themselves. It like, it is a scary thing.
[00:31:23] it's easy to ask someone, can you show me how to do this? until you actually sit with yourself and say like, how do I want to do this? what actually feels good? what is it that I want? What do I want to feel? what does success look like to me?
[00:31:36] to me, those are like such foundational questions, but a lot of people have a hard time doing it because, it's just easier to hire someone. It's just easier to, put the reins in someone else's hands, especially if we've been corporate leaders or like we've worked in the corporate, like you're used to being an order taker, not like being the boss of your own life, it's self leadership.
[00:31:58] That's what it comes down to. It's self leadership and a lot of people don't resonate with them being a leader, but I think we are, we all are, we are leaders of our own lives. until we actually realize that we're the leader of our life, you get stuck, you
[00:32:13] Fernanda :Paz Adams: get stuck real deep.
[00:32:15] You're just going to keep on repeating the same patterns over and over again, because you don't really know where you're going. And. Someone else's way is not going to be your way, but it's so uncomfortable. It's really uncomfortable work and it's not quick. That's the other thing that I find is like a sticky point for people.
[00:32:35] They want to have results quick and I get it. I've been that person, and it's a hard pattern to break. Want just wanting to see things come together faster and wanting to get answers faster. Our brain doesn't like being in the unknown. Our brain doesn't like not having answers. It's always going to be looking for an answer in a path and so telling yourself that you're not going to have an answer to something and you're going to allow yourself to sit in that uncomfortable unknowing until things start to become clear.
[00:33:10] Is not something that a lot of people can do. I think a lot of people can do it. They just don't feel comfortable and ready to do that. And it's very hard to do that alone.
[00:33:21] Laura Lorentz: yeah, I truly believe that they're like there is a time and a place to invest in yourself, but there's also a time and a place where you need to sit.
[00:33:30] By yourself, sit in the uncomfortable, there's time a time and a place for both. what do you think is that, where do you see like someone like investing in themselves, like where they should, I'm saying should quote unquote, what are some things that like people, would find value in getting support
[00:33:47] Fernanda :Paz Adams: from a coach on.
[00:33:50] I think a lot of people need that support with the, that initial, those initial blocks, really understanding, what's coming up for them, and who they are, and someone helping them ask those deeper questions and guide them down that path.I am a firm believer in business and in operations and strategy and in marketing.
[00:34:16] I love all that stuff and I geek out on it. but without that deeper work and not just someone who's going to Fluff you up and tell you like, this is the way to enlightenment in a super simple, easy, feel good way. that's not going to be it. Unfortunately, that's not going to be it. I wish we could just do work that just felt good and was just going to be like enjoyable.
[00:34:40] Not that has to be painful, but it was just going to be like light and fun all the time. It's not. it's really going to the deep root of what's coming up for you and those patterns that keep on coming up. I think there needs to be also a blend of working on that mindset, that those beliefs, [00:35:00] that embodiment piece, the energy piece, and then applying that into your business and how you're living your life.
[00:35:07] I hate leaving someone with just like, great, we did all this personal inner work and now go figure it out. Go find something that's going to fit for you. I find that's so hard. so it's like having that combination of that masculine and that feminine.
[00:35:24] Learning about yourself and being in the flow and tapping into your intuition and then building strategies and plans around that and then finding what it is that works for you. I love to have a clear path. My brain is very much about the how. And so really working on both sides and incorporating both at the same time I think is so powerful because you're not just getting one, you're not just getting the other you're getting a blend of both in a way that's really going to make you transform as a human, and then utilize that transformation.
[00:36:00] For your business so that you can actually start making results and seeing and doing things differently and testing things out as you're doing things differently and shifting because there's a lot of testing and a lot of experimenting in the process and having a coach or someone to support that can allow you to experiment and guide you through that experimentation.
[00:36:23] It's really important and it's not just going to say, this was my path and this was my strategy. And if you want to do it differently, you have to go somewhere else. no, you're going to, you need someone who's going to support that experimentation and who's going to allow you to test the waters and see what comes up and then go back to those limiting beliefs that will surface as you keep growing.
[00:36:42] Yeah,
[00:36:43] Laura Lorentz: I think you touched on a big thing, and there's like a difference between a coach and a teacher. There are some people that call themselves coaches, but they're really just teachers. They're saying, okay, this is what works for me, and this is what I'm going to teach you, even though they're not really a coach.
[00:36:56] a coach is someone Who, helps you, sits in the trenches with you and, helps to see you and guide you and, helps you find your own answers.
[00:37:04] Fernanda :Paz Adams: What's that? Helps you find your own answers.
[00:37:07] Laura Lorentz: Exactly. Exactly. They're not telling you what to do. they're guiding you and empowering you to find the answers.
[00:37:15] I think that's, yeah, the coach, teacher, consultant, I think there's so many blurred lines right now, especially in the online space, people saying that they're a coach, but they're really a teacher or consultant, because consultants tell you, they. They, do the analysis on what's working, what's not working for you and then they give you a solution and then it's up to you to implement. And you're like, that solution doesn't actually work for me at all. and then people feel resentful, because it wasn't co created or whatever. I think a lot of people are feeling burnt.
[00:37:47] in the coaching space because they're not quite sure what the difference between a coach and a teacher and a consultant is or what they actually need in that given situation. if you're gonna do the deep inner work, like the most empowering thing is working with a coach to support you on that.
[00:38:03] Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I truly believe that. Yeah, I
[00:38:07] Fernanda :Paz Adams: agree. That's one of the things that I've learned a lot about as I've been going through my coaching certification is how many people out there are just consultants and mentors and not actual coaches. That can make someone feel really disempowered when you have someone just telling you what they believe and giving you advice instead of allowing you to sit with whatever's coming up and guiding you and not dictating the agenda of,
[00:38:33] the process. It's really up to the client to take this where they need and to let whatever comes up and for the coach to Be aware and in tune enough to say okay this is where I believe like these tools would help or this strategy might be like an option and to have that bit of flow in between Letting the client guide and then giving suggestions and allowing to the certain tools or processes to support in that process.
[00:39:03] it's not easy as a coach. So I understand that it's not easy as a coach to just like Give space and hold space and to allow your intuition. This has been huge for me. Allowing your intuition to guide you in sessions and with clients to let whatever needs to come through and to know that your brain and your body and your intuition know what that client needs as they're coming up with their challenges and their problems.
[00:39:30] And there's no need to set an agenda for the sessions because one needs to come up, we'll come up. whatever the client needs, you will have the answers for. that's really hard to let go. And so there's a lot of people that would just rather do the controlling part and say, this is how we do things.
[00:39:46] This is the agenda that we follow. And if it works for you, great. And if it doesn't, it doesn't. And that's, To me, like you're, that's such a disservice to so many people that it makes sense that there's so many people out there that [00:40:00] feel, discouraged by coaches because they're not really being coached.
[00:40:03] not really. Yeah.
[00:40:05] Laura Lorentz: I totally agree. I actually feel like I have become a much, much better coach, since doing a lot of the, like the energy work that I've been doing because, so I, this is something I, I've talked to my mentor about, I feel like I, I held myself back for a long time in the coaching space because I felt when I'd get those intuitive nudges, as an intuitive person, just like you are, who am I to tell my client that they have a block in X, Y, Z, like whatever block it is, whatever mindset block.
[00:40:40] I wanted them to like truly be empowered to find like their own root cause, but in the healing space. I became a lot more confident in saying, okay, you know what, I've seen you struggle for X amount of time. I know exactly what your block is. can I share it with you? And I, in the healing space, I felt so much more confident actually, just saying, they came to me.
[00:41:03] from a healing perspective, but there is so much blend and interconnectedness with coaching. Like they're, they are different, but someone who can coach and heal at the same time, oh my gosh, is like so powerful. So the fact that you, you're going down the Reiki path and you've got the NLP and like the various tools I think are so important because they go hand in hand.
[00:41:27] And you can get to the root that much faster. Not only are you empowering them, but you're also are guiding them to get to that route. AndI feel much more confident now that I've done a lot more of the healing work. Like I know exactly what someone's blocks are. They're like, really tapping into my own intuition and Yeah, embracing that side of myself and being able to blend those two is like absolute magic.
[00:41:52] When you can be a coach, you can be a healer and know when to use either, but blend those two together, it's
[00:41:59] Fernanda :Paz Adams: powerful stuff. Yeah, it makes a big difference. I'm in my beginning stages as a healer, but I've noticed such a big difference in working with clients. And really healing some of those things,
[00:42:13] the releasing part and the sitting with it and letting it go, that is healing work. That requires someone to like, be really in tune with what that person is really struggling with right now and feel and have the rapport and the safety in that environment to. To make that suggestion and say, this is what I'm seeing.
[00:42:35] Are you open to clearing this? And if they're not, then there's just more deeper work that needs to be done in order to get to that point where they're ready to heal. And that's where that coaching comes in. And then once they have healed, like, where do we go from there? What can we do now that is gone?
[00:42:51] How can we now incorporate more positive things? And how can we then make that into something that is like practical for you? That's not just. All up in the space and feel such an up there concept versus something that is really rooted down and feels like, okay, like I've done some of the inner work.
[00:43:11] I did some of the healing and now there is a path forward that makes sense that has logic and that I can apply to my life and it just doesn't just feel like great. This was a lot of, we will work and what now, what, Yeah. it's really powerful. And I love, I have found my passion in blending those two for a really long time.
[00:43:31] I really loved the idea of like energy work and mindset and embodiment and now knowing what that looks like and knowing how to guide someone through that. And then incorporating the masculine in there, it just feels like that balance that is so needed that people are just either in one or the other and holding the two is hard and finding that balance is hard, but it's possible, you need to be guided through that.
[00:43:58] Laura Lorentz: So I've got a question for you that I ask all of my guests on the show is, so what does it mean to you to let your soul lead the way in life and business? I
[00:44:10] Fernanda :Paz Adams: love this question. It's such a powerful question. for me, letting my soul lead the way has been really allowing my mind to quiet down.
[00:44:21] My mind likes to be very loud. it likes to tell me all the things that, are not gonna go right and all those blocks and those beliefs about myself that are keeping me stuck. and when I let my soul lead the way is those moments where I make decisions that Don't make sense or I I take steps back in my business and I sometimes go backwards, in order to go forwards.
[00:44:51] I go back and I sometimes I burn down things and I start from scratch and I do things again because my soul is telling me. We [00:45:00] learned what we needed to learn from this, and now we need to move in a different direction. And now this is opening the path to something else and allowing those really illogical decisions.
[00:45:10] That just feel really right for me and trusting that's my intuition speaking that's my soul speaking and that's guiding my business in a way that really feels lit up in my body and in my soul that I couldn't get there if I was just making logical decisions and allowing my brain to dictate.
[00:45:29] Yeah, it's a process, but it's a beautiful process. And it really does open up so many opportunities that you can't be aware of until you allow yourself to go there.
[00:45:40] Laura Lorentz: Yeah. I think you touched on a really good point around there is this connection between the mind, body, and the soul in all of this.
[00:45:48] yeah, I think And you've got to have all of them kind of working in the same direction. and even if, the mind's not, 100 percent on board, if you can at least get the body and the soul on board, I feel like, That's the golden spot is, yeah, you force the mind to get on board when your body and your soul are there.
[00:46:11] Fernanda :Paz Adams: We're going, whether you want to or not, you're coming with us.
[00:46:14] Laura Lorentz: Yeah. Oh, that's awesome. So how can people work with you? how can they find you and what are some of the services that you offer?
[00:46:24] Fernanda :Paz Adams: right now I am offering, Voxer support. So it's, one week of really dialed in, super focused work on what, what's coming up, some challenges and some like really specific work that you need to get through.
[00:46:39] so that's one of the ways that you can work with me. And then in January, I'm launching my group coaching program rise again. that program is, my best program. It's everything that I wanted in a program, in really allowing and helping people and women entrepreneurs, specifically mothers are very passionate about working with moms because it's so hard balancing mom life and business life, really helping them release.
[00:47:05] That self doubt and encode themselves with that confidence that they're lacking and bring in that intuition and guiding them through that process of doing that deep in our work that is so hard to do by yourself and that you're so lost in. So those are the two ways that you can work with me right now.
[00:47:23] My program, I'm going to be, Releasing more information about it in the next month or so. and you can find me on Instagram right now. Fernanda_Pazadams. I love doing this work. So it's like anytime that I get to talk about it and share about it, it just lights me up.
[00:47:40] Laura Lorentz: That's awesome. Spoken like a true generator.
[00:47:43] Fernanda :Paz Adams: Yeah, very much. I'm very much in my, in alignment with my joy.
[00:47:48] Laura Lorentz: it's been such a pleasure to catch up with you and hear about all the great things that are going on. And thank you just so much for being a guest on the show today.
[00:47:57] Fernanda :Paz Adams: No, thank you.
[00:47:58] You've been at such a huge part of this process and, I love that we get to do this journey together. Yeah, that's awesome.
[00:48:05] Laura Lorentz: Okay, well, take care. We'll see you later. Bye.
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