Laura Lorentz: Welcome to the Empowered Essence podcast, where we liberate you and empower you to let your soul lead the way in life and business. I am your host, Laura Lawrence, sharing my thoughts and intimate conversations with featured guests on human design, energetic, and spirituality to provide you with the tools you need to tap into your most authentic self. I am here to empower you to walk away feeling ready to live your most expansive and purposeful life.
Laura Lorentz: Let's dive in. Hello everyone, and welcome to this week's episode of Empowered Essence. This week's episode is a little bit different, and it's really inspired by something that I've been going through personally. And I know that although I don't have all of the answers and what I'm going through, I know that my process at least is going to help someone, is going to help impact someone else's journey and what they're navigating and going through. And so I've been going through this challenging phase where I've been navigating a lot of introspection, I've had some health issues come up, and I've had to make decisions about my body. And it's really put me into this place of introversion, I guess is probably the best way to say it, where I've been going deep I wouldn't quite call it a full dark night of the soul, but something where I've had to think deep into my emotions, sink deep into my intuition in terms of what's right and what's wrong. For me, I've had to reevaluate the way that I look at situations. And so if you're going through a similar situation, so maybe you're renavigating things in your business, maybe you're experiencing overwhelm in motherhood, maybe you're going through grief and loss and pain challenges in relationships, other health concerns, things like that. These really challenging times in our lives where we have to renavigate, where we have to come back to ourselves, where we have to make decisions that may not be what we thought we wanted to do, or situations that come up that are completely unexpected and change the course of our trajectory. And they're difficult, they're hard, and we don't always see the purpose or the lessons that are in these things in the moment, but eventually they do come. I've been through enough of these instances where I know that I can handle this, I know that I will navigate through this. But just in the moment, it just it feels hard, it feels difficult and it's emotional. It impacts it might impact other people in our lives. You know, we think about our reputation potentially in these situations. We care about what other people think in terms of how we navigate through these situations. And so I wanted to share with you my own personal process. And for each of the energy types, there can be different ways that we navigate these situations. And so for me, as a projector, the biggest thing for me is just allowing myself time and space not putting expectations on myself in terms of how this navigation process looks like or what other people think, or bringing that in, setting these own personal expectations. We have these as projectors, we have these invisible expectations, whereas we don't always notice that we carry these things with us, that we put expectations around timing, we put expectations around how we should feel. And we don't always see it in ourselves that we're doing this, but we do. And it can be, especially when we're navigating difficult situations. So I've really been focusing on recognizing and noticing these invisible expectations that I've had. And so allowing myself time and space to navigate this, not putting pressure on myself to show up on social media when I don't feel ready. That's a big thing, too, for Projectors, is, you know, honoring this process and not feeling like we have to show up in the middle of it when we can extract the lessons, when we're through, it enough that we can start extracting lessons. So this is a perfect example that I haven't fully processed, I haven't fully navigated this situation in my life, but I'm at a point where at least I can start sharing my own personal process for this. And so it's been since actually September 30 that I've been navigating this, and I'm recording this episode on October 19. So it's been a good three weeks of me navigating this myself before I feel ready to even start sharing my process. So allowing yourself the time that there's no pressure to show how you're navigating it until you're ready. The other thing is invite Play. So this is something that projectors we always have a hard time doing, is inviting play into our lives, but something fun, you know, when we're stressed and when we're overwhelmed, what can we do to add fun into our lives? Is it playing with our kids? Is it having a night away with your partner? Is it just getting outside and running around? Is it exercising whatever it is? What is play to you and bringing play into things? You know, this weekend we've got plans to go to the pumpkin patch, and the first couple of weeks of this navigation, I didn't invite Play in, and I had to consciously remind myself that I need to have some fun in my life. I need to bring that back in. The other thing is about not having pressure to do when we're navigating things, when we're in these emotional waves. If you're an emotional authority, especially to when we're in these introspective phases, what's more important is who we are, how we are being in these phases. So if you need space, give yourself space. If you need to be around people, be around people. It's not about what you're doing. So if you do not feel creative whatsoever, not putting pressure on yourself to create things, to do things, to allow yourself to sink in, because I often find when I allow myself to sink in and really feel the feels these inspiration, these ideas come to me and not putting pressure on doing anything about them in the moment. So I've been sitting on this podcast episode that I wanted to do this for the last couple of days and today is the first day that I've really felt invigorated and I have the energy to put this together and to prepare this. So just be. Just be and what does that look like? Asking yourself what does that look like? And the other thing about projectors too, we like to make things complicated. We like to make things complicated. But our gift is seeing the simplicity in things. So when we are in low frequency, when we are going through these difficult situations, it's very easy to fall into lower frequency states of this. And so for me, I had a series of decisions that I needed to make and I looked at them all at the same time and made it complicated. And when I actually started piecing them apart as separate and distinct decisions, all I had to do was make a decision on one thing at a time. And when I started making a decision on one thing at a time and I had the clarity to make decisions on one thing at a time, all of a sudden the next thing started becoming clear. And then the next things started becoming clear. Because the moment that you make decisions on one thing, that changes the path, it changes the trajectory, it changes things. So for me, when I was able to just make it more simple, it's like, Laura, stop thinking that you have to make decisions on all of these things all at once. Just make a decision in the moment for one thing at a time, because that's going to change the options. That's going to change potentially the trajectory of my decision. So those are some insights just in terms of what I've navigated personally as a projector. And other energy types may pick up on some things that might be valuable, but as projectors, allowing yourself time and space, incorporating play, really just focusing on being rather than doing. And stop making things so complicated. Try to find the more simple ways of looking at things because that is our gift. Okay, so that's for projectors. I want to talk a little bit about generators and manifesting generators. So when you're navigating these difficult situations in our lives, the dark nights of the soul, loss and grief renavigation of our businesses, what's going to come up for you is this impatience. Your frustration is going to come up. You're going to want to know the answers, you're going to want to figure it out. You're going to be uncomfortable in the uncomfortable and that's normal and it's totally okay. So it's releasing that pressure that it's okay to want to figure things out, to be impatient, to be frustrated, but the thing is, is that you need to tap into your sacral. You need to tap back into your body and only act when you feel really, truly called to, when you feel that, hell, yes, I need to go. I need to do this. This is a mind. This is what I need to do. When you have the emotional clarity, if you're an emotional authority, when you have that emotional clarity to go, that's when you go. Allowing yourself to sit in the uncomfortable is the hardest part of it all. But when you give yourself that permission to sit in the uncomfortable, that's when you expand. That's when things get clear. That's when you really, truly start evolving as a human being and things will start opening up for you. And so in the uncomfortable to alleviate some of the uncomfortableness is come back to joy, really sink into, like, what would make me happy right now? The little things, you know, is it going to Starbucks and getting my favorite latte? Is it getting outside? Is it cozying up with a really good book and just spending the day to myself? What is joy to you in that moment? And when we are in these emotional states, when we are in these challenging times, the doing the thing that brings you joy might be the simplest, simplest thing. And so not making it like these big extravagances where it's like, I got to go out with my girlfriends, and you know what? That 100% might be what you need. It's just a really good night out. But it doesn't have to be it can be simple. It doesn't have to be like a big trip around the world. It doesn't have to be this big thing. Like it's just these in the moment, what brings me joy, what makes me happy. And so while you're in this process of renavigation. Trying to infuse even the little things that bring you joy. Allowing yourself. Giving yourself permission to sit in the uncomfortable and then only acting. Only taking action when your sacral says. Yes. When you feel this overwhelming sense of. Yes. My intuition is leading me in this direction. In this path. That's when you act because. Yes. Like I said. That impatience is going to come up. And when you act before you're ready, when you act before your sacral responds, that's when you'll regret things or that's when you'll look back and be like, I should have waited. I should have waited. And so things like that will come up. And so it's just about being patient and it's just about allowing yourself to sit in that uncomfortableness. Okay, so that's our gems and many gems. So for our manifest, for our manifesto, alone time is going to be your saving grace in all of this. The reason why alone time is so important is so that you can come back to yourself and giving yourself permission. That your opinion, your thoughts, your decision in all of this, whatever it is that you're going through, this dark night of the soul, your opinion, your thoughts are the only thing that matters. It does not matter what other people think of you, of your decision. It needs to feel really good in your body for it to be the right decision for you. So allowing yourself that alone time, that rest, that recharge to really come back to your own truth and tapping into your body. So your body is your guidance, it is your compass. When things feel really good in your body, you might feel nervousness, you might feel a little bit of unsurdness in yourself. But that nervousness and unsureness only comes from fear. If you know that it is right for you. You feel a little bit of nervousness, but you know that it's right for you. You just have this knowing that it is right for you. And that's that certainty, that's that clarity in your body. And when you have clarity in your body, that's when you can start shifting things. That's when you can start voicing your thoughts, your next steps, your opinions on things, how you want to navigate this. Like when you have that clarity in your body, that's when you start vocalizing. And that's when you can start saying what needs to change, what needs to shift, and really stepping into that and owning that. That's when you kind of like step back into that personal power because navigating these difficult situations, you will feel unsettled, you will feel like you're not this powerful self that you typically are. And that's okay. That's okay because sometimes you've let the opinions of others creep in and you need to shed that. You need to release that and come back to you. So tapping into your body, getting that clarity, getting that certainty, might mean moving your body. It might mean alone time, it might mean doing exercises and sports and activities. It might be time in nature, just going for walks. Whatever it is, it's like coming back in, grounding yourself, having some energetic grounding practices, just visualizing roots growing from your feet to ground yourself and come back into your body. That is what's going to give you that certainty. And that clarity is when you can just sit in that and detach yourself from the outside world, the opinions of others, the thoughts of others, and just come back to you. And when you're ready, like I said, start vocalizing it. Start sharing that because that's when change will happen, that's when the shifts will happen. But not vocalizing it before you have that clarity and that certainty in your body. Okay? And then the last energy type is the reflectors. So for reflectors, the most important thing is allowing yourself time and space. Not putting pressure on making decisions or doing things or bringing things to life before you are ready and just releasing all of that pressure. And so in this process of renavigation introspection, all of those things surrounding yourself in the right environment. And only you know what that right environment is. And so it can be alone time, allowing yourself to come back to your own thoughts and opinions. Similar to the manifesto, it could also be around people. So it could be around really supportive people, people who see you, people who really provide great opinions and thoughts, but allowing yourself to take on those things, those thoughts, those opinions, the support of other people, but being able to say, okay, what is right for me? What is right for me? And so ask yourself, do I need alone time just to cry it out right now? Or do I need to be surrounded by people who are just uplifting me and supporting me? There's a time and a space for having that introspection, but there's also a time and space to be around people. And so asking yourself each moment of the day, what is the right environment for me right now? Who do I need to be around? Do I just need to be around myself and be in my thoughts and be in my own opinions? Or do I need to be around other people? What is it that I need in order to feel really good in this instance? All right, so that's an overview of each of the energy types in terms of how to navigate challenging situations in your lives. And so I want to leave you with this. But these times, we look at these times of challenge sometimes as they're happening to us, but I want to remind you that they are 100% happening for you. They are times of growth, they are times of expansion, and they will not last forever. That is I know that in my soul. I know that to be true. They will not last forever. You will get through this. You will navigate through it. And how you navigate it is what matters. So really tuning back into you, what is it that you need? What is it that will make you if you're a generator, what gives you joy in this particular moment projectors? How can you play the reflectors and manifests? Do you need alone time? What is the right environment for you at this particular time? And just coming back to who you are, that's really what it is. It's coming back to what you need and who you are in this moment and not putting pressure on ourselves to have all of the answers and knowing in our souls that whatever comes out of this, you are going to be stronger, you're going to be more wise, you are going to be better off than you were when you started this journey. And especially for those of us who are in the coaching space, the online space, in a space where we're supporting other people, when we declare that we want to be leaders in a certain area in a certain niche. The universe will always give us opportunities to show our leadership. And so I know that I'm in the business of alignment. I am in the business of personal growth, personal development. And so when I go through these difficult situations in my life, I look at how I'm navigating. It not necessarily the end of where I want to be at the end of all of this. It's who am I being through this? Is this a person that I'm proud of in this moment? And so looking at it from that perspective of whatever it is that you are going through, one day you're going to lead other people through this. And I've seen this, I've seen this and I've had to have difficult conversations with my husband. Two weeks later, a client will reach out to me and say that she's going through a similar situation. And so I can share with her how I've navigated those situations. All of that will 100% before you too. So whatever it is that you're going through right now, you will 100% be stronger because of it and you will also be able to lead others through it. So if you are in this online coaching space or supporting people, this is happening for you. And always anchoring in on that and always remembering that that is something that I remind myself day in and day out, because I've asked for this, I've asked for the growth, I've asked for the expansion. And so I know that this is just giving me more tools in my toolkit to support others. And that's all I've ever wanted. And so I know that this is for my highest good and I know it's for your highest good too. So be kind, be compassionate, give yourself grace, and support yourself with however you need to support yourself. I'm sending you so much love and we'll talk to you next week.
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